People usually downgrade SAHM and some SAHM have low self-esteem…
My personal opinion is:
I totally absolutely salute SAHM!!! of course, true SAHM who take care of their family with whole heart… yg ngelat asyik layan drama bersiri dan ngadap FB smpi tak kisah anak tak included in this category ok… They wake up, prepare breakfast for their husband and kids, then some take the duty of driving their kids to school and everywhere else, make sure the house is clean, the laundry runs every day, play with their kids at home, help their kids with their homework etc…
Of course I’m not saying working mom doesn’t do all those things… it’s just the way we do it… I’m a working mom… I wake up, then prepare n pack my baby’s meal for the day, then feed my baby, change his diaper and play for a few minutes before it’s off to work time... I spend usually an hour with him in the morning before going to the office… the hour with him is while I try to prepare myself to work as well… so the attention would be around 60-70%... when he’s excited waking up and ready for a full play time, I always feel dishearten when I have to pick him up from what’s he’s playing to send him off to the babysitter’s home… I always wish I could just stay with him at home and do whatever he wants to do… guilt guilt guilt… if I wasn’t working, I wouldn’t have to rush him playing like ok, another 5 minutes then we have to go…
And then compared to working, taking care of your family 24 hours every day is really exhausting! This is my comparison to my job… not to say I have an easy job, just moderate… my job involves deadlines almost every day, attending to client requests, mostly in front of the computer but I do have to go to the printer/copy/fax machine like 10 times a day… so it is quite tiring to the mind especially and body a bit but I still have the luxury of sitting down and drinking a cup of coffee, or spending a few minutes chit chatting with my officemates…
I had the experience of staying at home for 3 months after delivery and oh my… I lost all the weight I gained during pregnancy just like that! Sila petik jari… This is because of all the rushing here and there fending to the baby’s needs… when the baby’s asleep, I’m busy taking care of other chores… even now when we spend the weekend together, I easily loose 1kg… seriously… I would weight myself on Friday evening then on Monday morning tadaa… 1kg lighter… but of course gain it back by Friday, hehe… so the secret to maintaining my weight is taking care of my baby… I love getting on my hands and knees chasing my little one (he’s crawling now) around the house and really just playing with him… now I’m slowly encouraging DH to do the same since he needs to shed a few kilos… hikhikhik…
So, for me, it’s a true sacrifice to make the decision to stay with your child at home… Although I would love to hand in my resignation letter today to my boss… sure pitam my boss if I resign… There are a few very important reasons that are holding me back… Not to say that my child is not as important if not more… but for the time being it is what it is… sedih…
To SAHM: Be proud of who you are and what you are doing!
To working moms: Although we have limit time with our child, the important is to make every moment spent a quality time…
