Friday, April 25, 2014
Thursday, November 28, 2013
Menuntut ilmu adalah Taqwa; Menyampaikan ilmu adalah Ibadah; Mencari ilmu adalah Jihad;
So here goes...
2. Start right!
Pn. Lina stressed that it is our responsibilities as parents to teach our children. We cannot just rely on the school teachers who manages at least 30 kids in a classroom.
2. Ignore a messy home - allow children to do messy arts and crafts to let their creativity grow.
3. Quran recitation during playtime and sleeptime. Especially when the child is about to sleep (baru nak lelap/ mamai2). This period is called hypnagogic moment and science has proven that at this state, the mind is more ready to receive any input than at other times.. On the subject of sleep - try to adjust your child's sleeptime. Wake up early (suboh), nap at noon and sleep after isya'. Avoid sleeping after suboh, asar and during maghrib.
How to teach?
Simply sitting down is not the effective way of teaching your children. Try to teach them in an environment which stimulates their visual, auditory and kinaesthetic (VAK model). For example, teach hijaiyah letters using flashcards with Quran recitation in the background while the children play their toys. Research has shown that children actually retain more mathematics if there is classical music playing softly in the backround. An example of applying the VAK model in your parenting is when complimenting your child - smile (visual), compliment (auditory) with hug and kisses (kinaesthetic).
0-4 months old babies can only see the colours red, white and black. So, start teaching using flashcards with these colours by hanging over their crib or at the area they play.
Start with baby friendly letters - aliff, mim, ba, ya, etc...
On using flashcard:
1. Select 5-7 cards that you want to teach;
2. Show each card for 10-15 seconds;
3. Look into your child's eye and let him see your mouth pronouncing the letters with open mouth (nganga luas2 ye);
4. Repeat 1-2 times each day.
Do not set any target when teaching as this will lead to stress; Beware! Do not yell and do not hit while teaching - children could mentally shut down if they had bad experience while learning..
Try to think of creative ways of teaching, e.g. stick different flashcards in different areas of the house
After learning the hijaiyah letters, teach them the meaning of the rules (atas, bawah, depan), then teach them to read the connected letters.
1. Flashcards - a set for flashing, a set for sticking all over the house, a set for the children to hold and play
2 - CDs of Quran recitation - to play in the house, in the car
The most important of learning at an early age is to teach them HOW to learn not simply teach them what's in the book!
Foods which stimulate the mind:
3. Fish oil
6. Habbatus sauda'
8. Olive oil
9. Ordinary water which have been read Surah Taha (Fatihah 1x, Taha Ayat 1-23 11x) is a food for the soul (~doa nabi Musa utk mohon kebijaksanaan)
# honey and milk is a must everyday!
Unusual tip - keep your drinking water and RICE in the bedroom because the bedroom is where you pray and recite Quran... it will affect the food to be more effective to the soul!
Avoid consuming any liver including cod liver oil, chicken wings, fish head, junk food, carbonated drinks.
Most importantly, PRAY! a mother's prayer antara doa yg terjamin makbul!
1. Learn with your children.
2. Apply reward system
3. Spend time with your children (jangan kedekut masa dengan anak)
4. Didiklah anakmu mengikut zamannya
5. Treat your children like an adult
6. The first 4 years (0-4) are the most important years of a child mental development.
7. As parents, we control our child, do not let your children control you.
When children showing tantrum, let them be until they stop by themselves. Do not give in. Do not be angry/yell/hit, it'll make matter worse.
How to get your child to do what you want:
1. Tell them WHY you want them to do something;
2. If they resist, show them you're mad without yelling;
3. Do a countdown cth: Ibu kira sampai 10 dah kena tutup TV;
4. Hit as a signal not to hurt (hit their ego);
5. Give motivation;
6. Give compliments;
7. Tell them about Allah's love;
8. Tell them the advantage of reading Quran - loved and protected by Allah swt...
What I've shared here is only 50% of what you'll actually gain if you joined the seminar. So, I definitely recommend attending the seminar to every parents. Visit www.islamicparentingnetwork.com.my for their schedule and location of seminars.
Pn. Lina mentioned during the starting of the seminar that we were the chosen one to have attend the seminar but not everyone in the room will have the motivation to actually apply what they've learnt. How true! So far we have implemented only half of what we've learned in the seminar. We still have a long journey ahead of us in teaching our son... but we do believe in the method taught by Pn. Lina. Lots of parents has success stories on teaching based on Pn. Lina's method (cth: umur setahun dah kenal semua huruf hijaiyah!). We just need to keep being motivated!
Next seminar - Seminar Parenting Gaya Al-Fateh, in shaa Allah will attend in January 2014 in Shah Alam...
Friday, August 30, 2013
A person’s outward actions
Hadith #4 of Imam Nawawi
[...] I swear by Allah – there is no God but He – one of you may perform the deeds of the people of Paradise till there is naught but an arm’s length between him and it, when that which has been written will outstrip him so that he performs the deeds of the people of the Hell Fire; one of you may perform the deeds of the people of the Hell Fire, till there is naught but an arm’s length between him and it, when that which has been written will overtake him so that he performs the deeds of the people of Paradise and enters therein.”
The lesson to be taken
Make 70 excuses
“If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves [ibid]“
“If you find see something you don’t like in a brother, try to find 1-70 excuses for him. And if you can’t find an excuse, say ‘There might be an excuse, but I don’t know it.“
Prophet Musa and A;-Khidr
Being harsh to non-Muslims
Calling muslims Kaafir
“If a man addresses his brother as, ‘O’ Disbeliever’ (Kaafir) it returns to one of them; either it is as he said or it returns to him.”Sahih Bukhari 10/427 and Sahih Muslim 60, Narrated by Ibn Umar
All judgement belongs to Allah
Thursday, July 25, 2013
A reminder to myself...
I came to realize, that in reality, Ramadan is so much more than just abstaining from food and drink during the daylight hours. Basically, Muslims are supposed to abstain from all harmful acts as much as possible and concentrate on becoming a better person and Muslim. Everyone can set their own goals for Ramadan according to their life situation and abilities. While one person struggles to quit smoking, another might set as a goal to read the entire Quran during Ramadan. Some might plan to pray extra prayers every day, donate to charity or memorize a new Surah from the Quran.
So I learned from my Muslim colleagues that Ramadan is also about remembering our Creator, reading the Quran, which was sent down during the month of Ramadan, doing good deeds (out of a sincere wish to do them, not by habit or force), being kind to others, giving out Dawah (teaching, not preaching non-Muslims about Islam) and remembering the poor and the less fortunate. Ramadan is about being humble, modest and abstaining not only from food, but from extravagance, over-consuming, spending, wasting food, money and resources.
Sadly, what I see today is very disturbing in that many people in Saudi Arabia are doing the exact opposite. The true purpose has been long lost and forgotten. I see people stocking up on food and spending on groceries like crazy, cooking and baking like there is no tomorrow. Women are spending their days in the kitchen instead of focusing on their religion; some out of their own will or perhaps out of learned habit and routine, some by demands from husband and even peer pressure.
When time comes for iftar, people indulge in extravagant meals and then lay around all evening snacking on deep fried, highly sweetened and unhealthy foods, watching Arabic soap operas on TV, gossiping with friends and staying up all night. Many go to shopping malls which are now open until the early morning hours for mindless shopping. Some even force their kids to stay up late or wake them in the middle of the night so that the parents don't have to get up early with them! The next day they sleep until the evening until it all starts over again at sunset.
The Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) taught Muslims by example to break the fast with simply dates and water and eat a light meal later. Pray Tawareeh prayers, then go to sleep as one normally would, get up early for night prayers and suhoor (breakfast) and go about the day working and doing things that one would normally do.
Let's not forget the true meaning of Ramadan, its purpose, and all the blessings of this month.
Break those unhealthy and binding routines and habits.
Make your Ramadan beneficial, not superficial!
Friday, June 14, 2013
Retyped here if you can't clearly read the above slide:-
People of the Cave
Summary: The story of young men who lived in a disbelieving town, so they decided to migrate for the sake of Allah and run away. Allah rewards them with mercy in the cave and protection from the sun. They woke up and found the entire village believers -----> Trial of Faith
The Owner of the 2 Gardens
Summary: Story of a man who Allah blessed him with 2 beautiful gardens, but the man forgot to thank the One who blessed him with everything and he even dared to doubt Allah regarding the afterlife. His garden was destroyed. He regretted at a time regret did not benefit him -----> Trial of Wealth
In the middle of this Surah, Allah mentions Iblees as the one who stirs these trials:
Summary: Story of the great king that was given knowledge and power, and was going around the world, helping people and spreading all that's good. He was able to overcome the problem of Jooj-ma-Jooj and build a massive dam with the help of people whom he couldn't even understand them -----> Trial of Power
Do you now know the secret of Surah Al-Kahf? Alhamdulillah
Let us all read it today with contemplation, understanding and a sincere intention to implement its lessons to protect ourselves from the Fitnah of Dajjal and all other trials of dunia & akhirat...