A reminder to myself...
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One day I watched all the ward
clerks praying together with some nurses and doctors in the staff room where I
was doing charting. I finally mustered up the confidence to ask about Ramadan,
despite the fact that they were all Saudi males and I felt a little intimidated
to approach them on this matter. I remember simply asking "why do you fast
during Ramadan?"
I was blown away by the reply. Looking back, the way one of the men explained
it to me in such a nice and respectable way was commendable, despite my seemingly
super ignorant question
He told me: "We fast to remember all those people who cannot
eat and drink daily. We fast to feel their suffering, to remind
ourselves of how blessed we are to have food and water. "
"We fast to feel those same pangs of hunger that our poor sisters and
brothers feel daily around the world."
"We fast to become more generous, to practise self-discipline and to
strive to become better Muslims and people."
His words had a profound impact on me. Somehow I had failed to see the true
meaning of the fast. I started to look at it from an entirely
different perspective.
I came to realize, that in reality, Ramadan is so much more than just abstaining from food and drink during the daylight hours. Basically, Muslims are supposed to abstain from all harmful acts as much as possible and concentrate on becoming a better person and Muslim. Everyone can set their own goals for Ramadan according to their life situation and abilities. While one person struggles to quit smoking, another might set as a goal to read the entire Quran during Ramadan. Some might plan to pray extra prayers every day, donate to charity or memorize a new Surah from the Quran.
So I learned from my Muslim colleagues that Ramadan is also about remembering our Creator, reading the Quran, which was sent down during the month of Ramadan, doing good deeds (out of a sincere wish to do them, not by habit or force), being kind to others, giving out Dawah (teaching, not preaching non-Muslims about Islam) and remembering the poor and the less fortunate. Ramadan is about being humble, modest and abstaining not only from food, but from extravagance, over-consuming, spending, wasting food, money and resources.
Sadly, what I see today is very disturbing in that many people in Saudi Arabia are doing the exact opposite. The true purpose has been long lost and forgotten. I see people stocking up on food and spending on groceries like crazy, cooking and baking like there is no tomorrow. Women are spending their days in the kitchen instead of focusing on their religion; some out of their own will or perhaps out of learned habit and routine, some by demands from husband and even peer pressure.
When time comes for iftar, people indulge in extravagant meals and then lay around all evening snacking on deep fried, highly sweetened and unhealthy foods, watching Arabic soap operas on TV, gossiping with friends and staying up all night. Many go to shopping malls which are now open until the early morning hours for mindless shopping. Some even force their kids to stay up late or wake them in the middle of the night so that the parents don't have to get up early with them! The next day they sleep until the evening until it all starts over again at sunset.
The Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) taught Muslims by example to break the fast with simply dates and water and eat a light meal later. Pray Tawareeh prayers, then go to sleep as one normally would, get up early for night prayers and suhoor (breakfast) and go about the day working and doing things that one would normally do.
Let's not forget the true meaning of Ramadan, its purpose, and all the blessings of this month.
Break those unhealthy and binding routines and habits.
Make your Ramadan beneficial, not superficial!
